It's not easy dealing with parents until the relationship is truly redefined in your mind. From the time we are able to walk and talk, our parents are the first and most influential people in our lives. It becomes difficult to shake that paradigm once we are adults.
In these situations, I tell myself that I must maintain the focus of my adult experience when I interact with them and not revert to the child who takes advice or critisim unabashedly.
This being said, there must be something in the back of your father's mind that misses you and that is why he calls you, but he no longer has any common ground with you to communicate except for the confrontational issues of the Borg.
Good luck.